It is helpful to understand that if one is not happy with the present circumstances, the chances are that happiness will still be elusive when conditions change to meet one’s current desire. That is, if happiness is elusive now, it will continue to be so in the future because the ability to locate the source of happiness has not yet been found.” Dr. David Hawkins, I: Reality and Subjectivity pg. 190
When discussing with many clients, I have pointed out this phenomenon of: If I have _________ than I will be _______; If he changes… than I will be happy. I thought since I could see it clearly in others, I myself had moved passed it. I was wrong. So often we see it in others because they are our perfect mirror. Without that mirror, we get swept away in an unconscious program that believes “if this happens, then I will feel better/be happy/be able to do my job/be successful/be loving or in love/ conquer my fear/ get up early/ have a lot of money/ have a good golf swing/ become enlightened”… Whatever the story is; the belief is: If I have this thing (person, thing or situation) that is outside of myself, then I will be ok, happy, content and at peace.
THIS IS FALSE. This is the error in thinking that must be forgiven.
But in order to change we must first become aware of this belief. Reading this, you might say “yes that that makes sense” but you will not know this to be true for yourself until you have experienced it. You may see but you can only understandwhen you have the awareness of catching this pattern. So now the seed has been planted. Now the awareness comes up and in the next moment we watch this program arise and we catch it. We see it for what it is. We take full responsibility for the error and now can adjust our beliefs and align ourselves with what it is that we do want. And that is….. wait for it… WHAT WE ALREADY HAVE.
Think about it: if you’re not happy now, with what you have, what makes you think you will be happier with more? when the situation changes? It is all an illusion. A false game of chasing our own tail.
So the truth is.. You are the source of the happiness you seek for.
We have to become happy with what we have now, cultivate that feeling of gratitude and realize our true nature is more than any one person or circumstance. Gratitude will shift your perspective from being the victim of the “thing” (person, thing or situation) to realizing: the thinking in error aims to fill the void of lack or not feeling enough within ourselves. Then we must forgive, ourselves. We see we are enough. It is enough. Then we realign with the next moment which is just as good and moves us from our old habits to our new intention. This does not mean manifesting what we want, to avoid the now. This means accepting that we are not the victim of our boss, our husband, our situation, cancer, illness, lack of money- WE are the perpetrator that created the situation so that we can become conscious of our deepest held beliefs. The “thing” is the nagging fly which won’t go away. That is our greatest teacher pointing us to where we must change our belief and shift our self-perception.
This means that everyone we hate is just as much of a teacher as the beauty in our life. Every situation we resist is just as much of an opportunity to see clearly. We must break the habit of believing happiness is somewhere outside of ourselves or something to get or something to change in order for us to be happy in the now. An empowered recognition I’ve found is that- we are already that which we want to become. When we really feel that, believe that, it will come with alarming speed because we realize it was always there. We’ve always been enough. The now has always been enough. Our thoughts about what it should be are the only error. There is nothing outside of us, in our way, or keeping us from what we want… other than ourselves.
Now that is a hard realization, a hard pill to swallow, that keeps many people resisting accepting responsibility because in the moment our ego feels better blaming others, blaming the situation, blaming our past for our own internal discord.
Now you have a choice.